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The books, sites, and talks behind these ideas. Every link goes to its maker's own page; nothing here is paid for.
Relationships
What makes two people last, from the people who studied it.
- BookThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage WorkJohn Gottman and Nan SilverThe concepts, behaviours, and skills that carry couples through, from decades of research on what the lasting ones do.Go to its page ↗
- BookThe 5 Love LanguagesGary ChapmanThe book behind the idea that people differ in how they give and receive love.Go to its page ↗
- BookHold Me TightSue JohnsonAttachment between adult partners, from the author whose books brought Emotionally Focused Therapy to readers around the world.Go to its page ↗
- SiteThe Gottman Institutegottman.comArticles, courses, and tools for couples, parents, and therapists.Go to its page ↗
- TalkMaking Marriage WorkJohn Gottman, on The Gottman Institute's channelJohn Gottman on what his research found in couples who stay together.Go to its page ↗
Attachment
How we bond, and why it shapes us as adults.
- BookAttachedAmir Levine and Rachel S. F. HellerThe science of adult attachment, and how it can help you find and keep love.Go to its page ↗
- SiteA Brief Overview of Adult Attachment Theory and ResearchR. Chris FraleyA researcher's plain account of where attachment theory came from and what the evidence says.Go to its page ↗
The mind
Dan Siegel on the brain, awareness, and relationships.
- BookMindsightDaniel J. SiegelThe skill of seeing your own mind and other people's, and how it can change your brain and your life.Go to its page ↗
- BookThe Developing MindDaniel J. SiegelHow relationships and the brain shape who we become.Go to its page ↗
- BookThe Whole-Brain ChildDaniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne BrysonThe same ideas, for raising children.Go to its page ↗
- TalkThe Hand Model of the BrainDan Siegel, on his own channelA few minutes with a hand as a model of the brain, and what happens when we flip our lid.Go to its page ↗
- PracticeThe Wheel of AwarenessDan SiegelA guided practice for attention, on his site.Go to its page ↗
- SiteDr. Dan Siegeldrdansiegel.comHis books, courses, and resources.Go to its page ↗
Personality
The sources behind the questionnaires here.
- SiteInternational Personality Item Poolipip.ori.orgThe public-domain pool of statements that Hopper Big Five and Hopper Personal Strengths are drawn from.Go to its page ↗
- SiteUnderstand Myselfunderstandmyself.comA paid Big Five Aspects report with percentiles against ten thousand people.Go to its page ↗
- SiteSelf Authoringselfauthoring.comOnline writing programmes: Past Authoring, Present Authoring, and Future Authoring.Go to its page ↗
- SiteMyers & Briggs Foundationmyersbriggs.orgThe foundation's own account of type and of the sixteen types.Go to its page ↗
- SiteEnneagram type descriptionsThe Enneagram InstituteThe institute's descriptions of the nine types.Go to its page ↗
- SiteThe 24 character strengthsVIA Institute on CharacterThe institute's list of the twenty-four strengths and what each means.Go to its page ↗
- SiteThe HEXACO Personality InventoryKibeom Lee and Michael C. AshtonSix dimensions of personality, from the researchers themselves.Go to its page ↗